Blaming culture

With 6 kids I didn't want to play the judge, nor the police with forever duty.
I was more of an investigator.
It worked perfect for me and the children.

It had to work.
4 autistic boys and a rather socially intelligent couple of twinsisters asked for more than just a mom.

Instead of handing out punishment when something went wrong, leading to upset children and acting out behaviour, an upset mom and all children stressed out, I used my own appraoch.
'You to your room, and you .. stay here!'

'Tell me the facts!'

I started this when I found out that the son with ADHD was able to remember the facts, but not the links in between.  To connect fact A and B he took the attitude of remembering, and the action of imagination.
It was the part of imagination that caused disagreement between kids, as the rest of the autists knew the facts...and the part in between.

So when the facts were told to me, I wrote them down, and then gave son nr 2 the opportunity to give me the facts.

After checking the facts, they both had returned to calm boys.
Then another of my famous questions came.
'Do you both agree?'

And another:
'So what have you learned?'

It worked better than the approach of friends, with kids that soon after arriving home yelled: 'He did it' 'No, he did it!!

The corona crisis resembles the blaming culture of little kids.
Not the crisis itself,  but the way how different countries and organisations deal with matters.

The blind emotions without fact checking.
'Test test test' yelled the chairman of the WHO.
No need to advice to use tests when they are not available.

The consequence of that false advice is a complete continent blaming their government for not having enough tests.
Do we gain something in a crisis like this?

No!!
People hold their government responsible and freeze.
They forget that they are responsible for their own reactions.
They become lazy and that's not what we need in a crisis like this.

It's time we stop this blaming culture and work with the facts!